If we were really to unset our heart, even while setting goals for ourselves, we need to let go, to give our troubles to the Universe. We need to trust. Trusting that things will turn out for the best—not necessarily how we want them to be—is one of the hardest things you can do.
When we don’t trust, when we get our heart set and are disappointed, we are giving our Lower Self free reign. In End the Struggle and Dance With Life, Susan used this example to describe what happens when we don’t trust: “Imagine that you are angry because you didn’t get the job you were hoping to get. It doesn’t seem fair that someone else who was not as qualified as you got the job instead. In addition to being angry, you are worried about what this means for your future success. Your Lower Self is giving you messages of gloom and doom and it is telling you over and over again, ‘You’re not good enough to truly succeed.’ Heavy baggage, indeed!”
When we trust, we know that we have choices in how we react to a negative situation. We can let it destroy our peace of mind, making ourselves miserable. Or, we can turn the anger and disappointment over to our Higher Self and trust that everything is happening perfectly.
Susan advised to say to ourselves in times of disappointment, “I trust there is a good reason for my not getting [what I wanted]. And I trust this outcome was for my highest good. I trust you will tell me exactly what I need to know and exactly what I need to do about this situation.”
When we trust we need to ‘turn it over’ to the Universe, we need to let go of any outcome and trust. Susan wrote, “When I say, ‘Turn it over’” I mean TURN IT OVER. And when I say ‘Trust,’ I mean TRUST! My own experiences in life have convinced me that things happen in our lives for very good reasons. Our very limited minds may not understand it all, but the Spiritual part of who we are understands perfectly.”
When we can focus on learning and growing, instead of disappointment and fear, we let go of the burden of controlling everything. We can lighten up and life becomes simpler.
“The reason things happen the way they do unfolds just in the process of living itself,” Susan said. “Remember. while none of us understands the ‘Grand Design,’ we can commit to using all our experiences, good or bad, as the building blocks of a powerful and loving life. Then it is, indeed, all happening perfectly!”