This month we’re talking about becoming a loving person by loving ourselves first. Sometimes a person who seems very loving has very little love for themselves. In this case, they are using their love to mask their neediness. Talia seemed like a confident, loving single woman in her early thirties.…
Category: Relationships
Dropping the Act for True Connection
In this excerpt from Dare to Connect, Susan describes the fear that all of us feel when we put ourselves out in the world, wishing and hoping that others will like us. Metaphorically, we all wear an “I want you to like me” sticker on our foreheads. Whether we are…
Self-Awareness Starts with Observing
Becoming less judgmental begins by becoming more self-aware. Susan created an exercise, that she discusses in The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, that helps you to “Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” With the help of your mirror, begin to notice your thoughts, so that over there is…
How Using “The Mirror” Works
This month’s newsletter article is about “Picking Up the Mirror Instead of the Magnifying Glass,” where we examine our own behavior and actions instead of judging others. Here is an excerpt to show how it can work from The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love: Can the mirror save…
Habit vs. Family Time
This month, we’re talking about the “pull of habit”—when our habits are so set in stone that we sacrifice other parts of our life in order to keep that habit safe. When we settle into our comfort zone like this, our lives become unbalanced, and we are not putting 100%…
Finding Your Heart in Soul Friendships
Soul-friendships, as described by Susan in Dare to Connect, are connections made through our Higher Selves. When people talk about having close friends, these are the type that we usually mean. These friends are the type whose company we enjoy, but also the friends we can confide in and find…
Other Ways to Greet the Light
In August’s newsletter article, we talked about creating connections by silently saying to those we meet, “I greet the light within you.” In Dare to Connect, Susan wrote about other phrases that can be used to connect with others through our Higher Selves. Here is an excerpt: Another variation of…
Giving is About Being Your Best
We give presents and our time to try to make other people happy, to add a little joy to their lives. When we give from a place of love and trust, we are expanding our own lives and adding to our own blessings. Giving is about being your best, regardless…
Techniques for Dealing with Push Back
When we are working on improving ourselves and we face push back from the people we love, we need to use the right tools in order to deflect any negativity. If we don’t and we might lash out and start arguments, then we aren’t helping ourselves or those around us.…
Finding a ‘Gratitude Buddy’
We’re talking this month about how easy it is to fall into a feedback loop of complaining. In Chapter 12 of End the Struggle and Dance With Life, “Wake Up To the Abundance,” Susan talks about how we can express in conversation how grateful we are for the blessings that…