Awareness Is the First Step

In this month’s newsletter, we talked about applying Susan’s Mirror technique to our day-to-day interactions with others. When we are critical and judgmental about other people, we are operating from our lower self. This is looking at people through a magnifying glass. When we look in the mirror and try to understand why we are so negative and judgmental, we often find that being critical towards others is about our own fears.

Much of this lesson comes from Susan’s book The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love. One chapter is devoted to discussing the Mirror technique as regards to personal relationships. The end of the chapter includes “Love Lessons” to help us apply the Mirror technique to our own situations. Here we’ll take a look at one of those “Love Lessons” and see how it can apply to all the people we see or interact with.

The first lesson is “Notice your resistance. Awareness is an important first step.” Do you even notice when you have a critical or disparaging reaction to another person? Do you notice a sense of satisfaction, superiority, or righteousness when you do? Or is it so ingrained in your behavior that it isn’t even noticeable?

The first step is to pay attention to your random thoughts. Try to notice any judgmental reactions you have when encountering other people. If you find yourself trying to justify why you are being critical, then you might want to step back and ask yourself why.