In this month’s article, we talked about not letting ourselves be dragged down by the divisiveness that seems to be affecting the world. We described a visualization technique adapted to for the article. Below is the technique in its entirety as found in Chapter 10 of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.
Find an empty room and turn off the telephone. Put on some soothing music. Sit down in a comfortable chair and close your eyes. Visualize someone who brings up a lot of anger or pain in you. Picture them in front of you. First, surround them with rays of healing white light and tell them that you wish them all good things—everything they could possibly want in their lifetime. Thank them for whatever they have given you. Keep doing this until you feel your negative emotions leaving.
To say this is not easy is to utter the biggest understatement in the world. “Wish her good things? Are you out of your mind? I want to see her suffer for what she’s done to me!”
The first time I did this exercise, I picked someone who had previously worked for me, and who had caused me a great deal of upset and pain. I had trusted him, and, to my mind, he had betrayed me. Note the victim mentality in full bloom! Obviously, I was not taking responsibility for my experience of life at that time. As I went through the exercise, I experienced an incredible series of emotions.
First, I was shocked at the anger and resentment I was holding. I found it almost impossible, even in my mind’s eye, to wish him anything good. My initial anger toward him was monumental. As I slowly released the anger, I got in touch with the pain I felt. This turned to anger at myself for allowing what had happened and for holding all my anger for so long. This turned into forgiveness of myself and of him. I was able to see both of us simply as people who had done the best we could at the time. I could then surround us both with healing white light.