What exactly is your comfort zone? Here is Susan’s explanation from Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway: Most of us operate within a zone that feels right, and outside of it we are uncomfortable. For example, we might spend $50 for a pair of shoes, but $100 would make…
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Anger Used for Good
This month we’re talking about flowing with the changes in our relationship with our spouse or partner and making sure our old-expectations are not creating friction. In The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, Susan offered this advice: PUT YOUR ANGER TO GOOD USE. Anger is a good clue…
Change Your Life By Acting-As-If
Have you ever tried Susan’s “Acting-As-If” exercise? It is a wonderful tool for improving even the most mundane aspects of your life. It can also help your relationships. Here’s an example. Katrina had been married for seventeen years to her husband, Marcus. They had two teenage children and both worked…
Instant Angel to the Rescue
As mentioned in this month’s newsletter, Susan had a close call with a terrible accident and was rescued by her “instant angel.” Here is the story from Life Is Huge!: Many years ago, I decided to travel from New York City, which was my home at the time, to attend…
You Always Have a Choice in How You Feel
Lesson Seven of taking responsibility for our own experiences states that we must be aware of the multitude of choices we each have in any given situation. This statement makes it sound easy, but putting it into practice is hard—especially when our obligations seem to overwhelm us, our friends are…
The Seven Lessons of Responsibility
In this month’s newsletter article, we are talking about taking responsibility. In Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Susan wrote about taking responsibility for not only our “experiences in life,” but even more importantly for our “experiences of life.” She talks about the Seven Definitions of Responsibility to help…
Creating Your Own Misery, Creating Your Own Joy
We all know the feeling—angry, upset, and sad because the world is making our life less than perfect. Our boss is mean, our friends aren’t there for us, other drivers cut us off in traffic, the store clerk was rude, we got a surprise bill from the electric company. On…
Even Famous People Feel Fear
Susan’s Fear Truth #4 tells us that we are not alone in our fear and that everyone feels fear when they try something knew. In Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, she uses the example of New York City mayor Ed Koch—an attorney, political commentator, TV personality, and a…
Fear Truths Reviewed
One of the earliest things we learn in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway are Susan’s Five Truths About Fear. As we’re talking about Fear Truth #4 in this month’s newsletter article, we thought we would do a full review of all five here. Truth #1: The fear will…
You Don’t Have To Be Alone With Your Fear
“By virtue of our all being human, we share the same feelings. Fear is no exception.” Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Susan’s Five Truths About Fear has become an iconic definition of fear and works as an important starting point for those of us trying to overcome our fears. These Truths are…