One of the loveliest things about having friends is that there is almost always room for more. Just like any other part of our comfort zone, we often get comfortable with the friends we have and don’t think about reaching out to new people. But it’s still important to try…
Category: Communication
Thoughtfully Dealing With Opposing Viewpoints
We’re talking this month about letting go our need to be a know-it-all and our need to be right. Instead we need to allow ourselves to doubt and to sometimes be wrong. To get along with people of opposing viewpoints, we need to open ourselves up to listening and understanding—not…
Looking for the Deeper Meanings in Affirmations
In Life Is Huge, in the chapter “The Surprising Power of Affirmations,” Susan wrote that even though affirmations are generally short, one-sentence phrases, their power comes from the meaning that underlies that simple sentence. For example, take the affirmation, “I let go of my need to control everything around me.”…
A Kingdom for a Tomato
This month we’re talking about looking mindfully and looking deeply. Many of us might think that looking deeply isn’t that hard since we spend so much time looking deeply into our past or into our future. Revisiting past events is something that so many of us unconsciously do—thinking about how…
Moving Away From the Alienation of Competition
Competition can be healthy in certain circumstances, but often it’s both frustrating and exhausting. Constantly having to try to outdo our friends and colleagues, even strangers, takes us down to our Lower Self. The problem is that we’ve all been told our whole lives that we must be successful and…
Ditching “The Moan and Groan Society”
When we hang out with the Moan and Groan Society, as Susan coined it, we’re not being supported in our long-term goals. We’re helping to keep each other down, stuck in our comfort zones—even if we’re miserable. We may feel like we’re being supported and being supportive—because we’re listening while…
Striving for the Language of Love
“When do we use an exclamation point and when do we use a question mark?” John Balzar, Los Angeles Times The world is in a divisive place right now—not that it has ever really been a place of harmony. However, the acrimony and partisan-ness seems to have reached epic proportions.…
Rising Above Conflicting Opinions
Watching the news, reading a newspaper, listening to the radio, browsing your favorite social media—these things should be entertaining but wind up causing us to be stressed, to feel anger, even to feel hate. Susan noticed this within herself and in the world around at large. “Every day I see…
Silence Speaks
Episode 3 – Silence Speaks For much of his life, Peter chose to be silent. It could take him one minute to say one word. Peter developed a deep fear of speaking. This story touches the heart of fear and why sometimes, humans stop before they have even begun. This…
Feelings Are Contagious
In this excerpt from The Feel the Fear Guide the Lasting Love, Susan describes how our mind and feelings can affect those around us. When we feel love, especially for ourselves, those we interact with will notice and react in kind. Feelings are contagious. What do I mean by that?…