This month we’re talking about becoming a loving person by loving ourselves first. Sometimes a person who seems very loving has very little love for themselves. In this case, they are using their love to mask their neediness. Talia seemed like a confident, loving single woman in her early thirties.…
Category: Feel the Fear
Setting Intentions: A Great Way to Start a New Year
Whether you are trying to lose weight or get fit, whether you are angling for a better job or to start a side business, whether you are looking for love or looking to reconnect with yourself, there is no better time to get started on making things happen than at…
Pain-to-Power Vocab and Illness
This month we’re talking about Susan’s lesson in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway about Pain-to-Power Vocabulary. Our word choices can make a huge difference to our attitudes. Even in dire situations, such as illness, choosing the right words can help you orient yourself towards healing. Susan experienced this…
Pain-to-Power Vocabulary, Holiday Edition
Adapted from the works of Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. After having to have subdued holiday celebrations last year, or none at all, this year most of us will be able to scale up our holiday festivities to pre-pandemic proportions—which might be putting some extra pressure on us to create the perfect…
Self-Awareness Starts with Observing
Becoming less judgmental begins by becoming more self-aware. Susan created an exercise, that she discusses in The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, that helps you to “Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” With the help of your mirror, begin to notice your thoughts, so that over there is…
How Using “The Mirror” Works
This month’s newsletter article is about “Picking Up the Mirror Instead of the Magnifying Glass,” where we examine our own behavior and actions instead of judging others. Here is an excerpt to show how it can work from The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love: Can the mirror save…
Making Connection One Step at a Time
In Dare to Connect, Susan spent a lot of time talking about how hard it can be to create connection to other people, especially since most of us were raised to be competitive with the Somebody Training. Creating an environment of support and caring can seem like a daunting task,…
Naming Your Chatterbox
Susan called it the “Chatterbox.” That voice inside each of us that is our voice of doom and gloom. That voice that finds us when we’re already down and pushes us farther away from the parts of ourselves that are joyful and confident. Affirmations were Susan’s favorite way of rewiring…
The Act-As-If Exercise Refresher
When we “act as if” we matter and commit ourselves 100% to whatever we are doing, we can make a big difference in our own lives and also in the lives of those we touch. If you’re feeling weighed down by obligation, duty, or resentment, try this exercise from Embracing…
When “Should” Gets in the Way of Kindness
Adapted from the works of Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. We can all agree that the world would be a better place if more people were kind and considerate. And we know that to make the world a better place, kindness starts with each of us. But there are situations when we…