“By virtue of our all being human, we share the same feelings. Fear is no exception.” Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. Susan’s Five Truths About Fear has become an iconic definition of fear and works as an important starting point for those of us trying to overcome our fears. These Truths are…
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Letting Go of Hate and Anger
We’re talking this month about how to bring more love and loving into the world. The world seems to full of divisiveness and hatred, more so than ever before. How can we bring more love into the world? How can we make this a more loving place? It starts at…
Greeting the Light
This month we’re talking about how to bring more love into the world. The first step towards doing that is working on ourselves. We’re going to explore that idea a little more, here on Susan’s blog. In Dare to Connect, she suggested a technique that can help us become more…
Bringing More Love Into the World
It feels like there is so much hate and anger in the world, but what can we do? It turns out, we can do a lot. Even though hate seems widespread through organized groups, it begins with each one of us as individuals. When someone attacks the things you believe…
Commitment Doesn’t Have To Be Forever
“To make commitment a less heavy concept, keep in mind that, contrary to what we have been taught, it doesn’t necessarily mean forever,” Susan wrote in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Susan wrote a lot about making sure that in whatever you are doing, you are 100% engaged,…
When Caring Masks Neediness
This month we’re talking about becoming a loving person by loving ourselves first. Sometimes a person who seems very loving has very little love for themselves. In this case, they are using their love to mask their neediness. Talia seemed like a confident, loving single woman in her early thirties.…
Dropping the Act for True Connection
In this excerpt from Dare to Connect, Susan describes the fear that all of us feel when we put ourselves out in the world, wishing and hoping that others will like us. Metaphorically, we all wear an “I want you to like me” sticker on our foreheads. Whether we are…
Self-Awareness Starts with Observing
Becoming less judgmental begins by becoming more self-aware. Susan created an exercise, that she discusses in The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, that helps you to “Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” With the help of your mirror, begin to notice your thoughts, so that over there is…
Making Connection One Step at a Time
In Dare to Connect, Susan spent a lot of time talking about how hard it can be to create connection to other people, especially since most of us were raised to be competitive with the Somebody Training. Creating an environment of support and caring can seem like a daunting task,…