This month we’re talking about becoming a loving person by loving ourselves first. Sometimes a person who seems very loving has very little love for themselves. In this case, they are using their love to mask their neediness. Talia seemed like a confident, loving single woman in her early thirties.…
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Dropping the Act for True Connection
In this excerpt from Dare to Connect, Susan describes the fear that all of us feel when we put ourselves out in the world, wishing and hoping that others will like us. Metaphorically, we all wear an “I want you to like me” sticker on our foreheads. Whether we are…
The Power of Saying YES!
Since we’re talking this month about opening up to the Universe, here is an excerpt from Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway about how important it is to say Yes: Life offers many opportunities to practice saying yes to your universe. The baby spills milk all over the floor;…
Setting Intentions: A Great Way to Start a New Year
Whether you are trying to lose weight or get fit, whether you are angling for a better job or to start a side business, whether you are looking for love or looking to reconnect with yourself, there is no better time to get started on making things happen than at…
Pain-to-Power Vocab and Illness
This month we’re talking about Susan’s lesson in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway about Pain-to-Power Vocabulary. Our word choices can make a huge difference to our attitudes. Even in dire situations, such as illness, choosing the right words can help you orient yourself towards healing. Susan experienced this…
Pain-to-Power Vocabulary, Holiday Edition
Adapted from the works of Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. After having to have subdued holiday celebrations last year, or none at all, this year most of us will be able to scale up our holiday festivities to pre-pandemic proportions—which might be putting some extra pressure on us to create the perfect…
Self-Awareness Starts with Observing
Becoming less judgmental begins by becoming more self-aware. Susan created an exercise, that she discusses in The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, that helps you to “Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” With the help of your mirror, begin to notice your thoughts, so that over there is…
How Using “The Mirror” Works
This month’s newsletter article is about “Picking Up the Mirror Instead of the Magnifying Glass,” where we examine our own behavior and actions instead of judging others. Here is an excerpt to show how it can work from The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love: Can the mirror save…
Making Connection One Step at a Time
In Dare to Connect, Susan spent a lot of time talking about how hard it can be to create connection to other people, especially since most of us were raised to be competitive with the Somebody Training. Creating an environment of support and caring can seem like a daunting task,…
Competition vs. Everybody Training
In this month’s newsletter article we are talking about how competition creates a wall between us and other people. In Dare to Connect, Susan talked about how our Somebody Training (how we are raised to try to be a Somebody) creates conflict where there doesn’t have to be any. Here…