This month, while the world is talking about romantic love, we’re talking about the more important self-love. Yet how many of us would admit love for ourselves? Most of us, in fact, are more likely to do the opposite and admit only to our flaws. We spend more time pulling…
Category: Personal Development
Imagination is a Powerful Force
The following is an excerpt of a chapter in Susan’s book of essays called “Life is Huge!” In this brand new year, it says a lot about envisioning the future we want and having the courage to commit to it. The best party I ever attended was in the year…
Commitment is the Key to Achieving Resolutions
“You have to do something to make your real life match your visualization, so your actions are critical.” Susan Jeffers As we start off a brand new year, many of us will be setting goals or making resolutions. At the very least we’ll be thinking about the future. There is…
Letting Go and Living It Up
We’ve been talking this month about letting go of how we think the holidays “should” be and learning to enjoy the daily activities and surprises they bring. Now let’s talk about why setting our hearts on a certain outcome is not a path to joy. When we become obsessed with…
Become the Observer of Your Thoughts
Following up on the previous blog, another “Love Lesson” that we can adapt to help us perfect Susan’s Mirror technique is the third one from Chapter 4 of The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love—“Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” Susan wrote: “With the help of your mirror you’ll…
Do Something, Even If It’s Just Your Routine
In this month’s newsletter article we talked about getting perspective on our worries by doing something, anything really, to step out of our anxieties. We wanted to share Brianna’s story with you. Brianna was a working mother of three small children—all under age 7—when her husband sprang the news on…
What Are Your Payoffs?
In Lesson Five of taking responsibility for our own experiences states that we must be aware of payoffs that keep you “stuck.” But what exactly does this mean? This lesson is best learned through example. Here is an excerpt of one that Susan used in Feel the Fear: Jean was…
Taking Responsibility Means Asking Yourself Why
When you are feeling bad, when you are upset or worried do you think such thoughts as: It’s her/his fault that I’m miserable. It’s his/her fault that I worry all the time. It’s her/his/their fault that I’m stuck. As Susan wrote in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, “If…
So Many Options. Too Many Options?
As the traditional relationship roles shift and the strict boundaries and expectations become more flexible it can sometimes feel harder and harder to find a partner. It used to be that you met someone through friends or family or church, or maybe you met them through your place of employment.…
Broadening Your Relationship Horizons
This month, we are talking about finding love when all the rules seem to be constantly changing. Here is an example of one woman who took a long route to find her balance on the shifting carpet of love. Tia was in the dating scene for more than twenty years.…