This month we’re talking about flowing with the changes in our relationship with our spouse or partner and making sure our old-expectations are not creating friction. In The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, Susan offered this advice: PUT YOUR ANGER TO GOOD USE. Anger is a good clue…
Category: Relationships
A Love Lesson for a Strong Relationship
In her book, The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, Susan wrote about how out-of-date expectations can put cracks in our relationship with our spouse or partner. To make sure we are putting our relationship first—and not our expectations—Susan offered this “Love Lesson.” Analyze Your Expectations She wrote, “In…
People Change and So Must Relationships
“Every couple is on their own to discover how to build a healthy relationship and to forge their own vision of how and why to be together.” Susan Jeffers Life changes us, everyday we learn something new, get involved in new hobbies, meet new people, try new foods. Every new…
The Important Habit of Saying Thank You
This month we’re talking about recognizing and being grateful for the support we receive from other people. Showing our gratitude is the best way to be conscious of the help we receive. In End the Struggle and Dance With Life, Susan talks about “Cultivating the habit of saying, ‘Thank You.’”…
What We Find When We Look Deeply
A self-made person is a myth. Not one person has found any kind of success without the support of other people. We hear a lot about self-made millionaires who worked their way to success. But those millionaires did not do it by themselves. Sure they put in the hard work…
Letting Go of Hate and Anger
We’re talking this month about how to bring more love and loving into the world. The world seems to full of divisiveness and hatred, more so than ever before. How can we bring more love into the world? How can we make this a more loving place? It starts at…
When Caring Masks Neediness
This month we’re talking about becoming a loving person by loving ourselves first. Sometimes a person who seems very loving has very little love for themselves. In this case, they are using their love to mask their neediness. Talia seemed like a confident, loving single woman in her early thirties.…
Dropping the Act for True Connection
In this excerpt from Dare to Connect, Susan describes the fear that all of us feel when we put ourselves out in the world, wishing and hoping that others will like us. Metaphorically, we all wear an “I want you to like me” sticker on our foreheads. Whether we are…
Self-Awareness Starts with Observing
Becoming less judgmental begins by becoming more self-aware. Susan created an exercise, that she discusses in The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love, that helps you to “Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” With the help of your mirror, begin to notice your thoughts, so that over there is…
How Using “The Mirror” Works
This month’s newsletter article is about “Picking Up the Mirror Instead of the Magnifying Glass,” where we examine our own behavior and actions instead of judging others. Here is an excerpt to show how it can work from The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love: Can the mirror save…