In our November newsletter, we’ve been talking about taking the fear out of decision making. Sometimes when we face a big decision, or even a number of small ones, we freeze up, fearing that we will make the wrong decision. But as Susan wrote in Feel the Fear and Do…
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The Psychological Predisposition to Bad News
Humans are predisposed to pay more attention to bad news, to things that can go or have gone wrong. The psychological term for it is Negativity Bias. We are all inclined towards life’s negativity. This is the idea that Susan spent her whole career battling against—just because we are predisposed…
Become the Observer of Your Thoughts
Following up on the previous blog, another “Love Lesson” that we can adapt to help us perfect Susan’s Mirror technique is the third one from Chapter 4 of The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love—“Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” Susan wrote: “With the help of your mirror you’ll…
Awareness Is the First Step
In this month’s newsletter, we talked about applying Susan’s Mirror technique to our day-to-day interactions with others. When we are critical and judgmental about other people, we are operating from our lower self. This is looking at people through a magnifying glass. When we look in the mirror and try…
Do Something, Even If It’s Just Your Routine
In this month’s newsletter article we talked about getting perspective on our worries by doing something, anything really, to step out of our anxieties. We wanted to share Brianna’s story with you. Brianna was a working mother of three small children—all under age 7—when her husband sprang the news on…
What Are Your Payoffs?
In Lesson Five of taking responsibility for our own experiences states that we must be aware of payoffs that keep you “stuck.” But what exactly does this mean? This lesson is best learned through example. Here is an excerpt of one that Susan used in Feel the Fear: Jean was…
Assigning Blame and Romantic Relationships
In this month’s newsletter article, we talked about taking responsibility for our life experiences. We want to talk a little more about lesson three—Be aware of where and when you are NOT taking responsibility so that you can eventually change. In Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, Susan used…
Taking Responsibility Means Asking Yourself Why
When you are feeling bad, when you are upset or worried do you think such thoughts as: It’s her/his fault that I’m miserable. It’s his/her fault that I worry all the time. It’s her/his/their fault that I’m stuck. As Susan wrote in Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, “If…
13 Steps Towards Loving Communication
In a poll published last year on HuffingtonPost.com, the primary reason that people divorce is due to lack of communication. Susan definitely knew that to be the truth and was open about how a lack of communication was a big factor in the break-up of her first marriage. In her…
So Many Options. Too Many Options?
As the traditional relationship roles shift and the strict boundaries and expectations become more flexible it can sometimes feel harder and harder to find a partner. It used to be that you met someone through friends or family or church, or maybe you met them through your place of employment.…