We’re talking this month about how to approach decision-making from the perspective of a lifelong student. Susan recommended using her model of the “No-Lose” Decision-Making Method. From Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, here is a summary of the steps in that method. By applying these, you’ll breathe a…
Category: Confidence
Aging as a Metaphor
Our culture is hard on people who are no longer young. We’re criticized for aging—a normal process that happens to everybody! That’s why Susan wanted to create a new age category, Timeless. She wrote about it in an early article (pre-Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway) called, “A New…
It’s Never Too Late to Be Timeless
This month we’re talking about being Timeless—not young, not elderly, not even middle-aged. Timeless describes those of us who are vibrant, curious, sexy, healthy, and adventuresome—characteristics usually associated with youthfulness—who are past a certain age. In the 2015 movie, Hello, My Name is Doris, actress Sally Field (who might just…
When Life Is at Its Toughest
One morning before going off to work, after nearly eight years of marriage, Alyssa’s husband told her he wanted a divorce. The announcement sent her into a state of shock. Leading up to his announcement there had been no identifiable indicators that he wasn’t fully committed to their marriage. After…
Learning to Always Learn
As we talked about in April’s newsletter article, in Embracing Uncertainty, Susan recommends that we always choose to learn from our experiences by choosing to value every experience—good or bad—as an opportunity for discovery. In chapter 5 of the book, she wrote about the “I Can Learn From This” exercise.…
A Useful Way to Pretend
Embodying the change that you want to make in your life is a much more proactive way to meet your New Year’s goals, as we talked about in this month’s newsletter article. Here is an example Susan used to explain exactly how it can work. In college, Megan developed a…
Online Communities vs. Real-Life Communities
We are lucky to live in such an exciting world. With instant communication through our phones and computers, we can be in touch with like-minded souls the world over with just the tap of a keyboard. If you have an unusual hobby or like a very narrowly defined thing, chances…
The Language of Openness
Making friends online can be so much easier than in real life. We can choose how we want people to see us and we can showcase only the parts of ourselves that we like the most. But online connections are no replacement for real life interactions. Hiding behind our screens…
Be A Hero, Part 2
In Embracing Uncertainty, Susan wrote about a “Be A Hero” exercise, in which she tells us how we can get in touch with our inner hero. When difficulties arise, immediately reject the victim mentality and begin looking for the good. That is, find the blessings in any situation you encounter…whether…
Be A Hero, Part 1
This month we’re talking about Heroes. Not the kind that wear funny costumes. The real kind of hero whose experience is inspiring and uplifting. There are a lot of examples out there of people who’ve experienced the worst but chose to see themselves as ‘winners’ instead of ‘victims.’ So keep…