“Say YES to saying NO! Initially, saying NO to tasks brought before us can bring on great anxiety. That’s OK! Feel the fear and say NO anyway! Very quickly, you will realize that our motivation for doing most of the tasks brought before us has less to do with the…
Category: Confidence
Silence Speaks
Episode 3 – Silence Speaks For much of his life, Peter chose to be silent. It could take him one minute to say one word. Peter developed a deep fear of speaking. This story touches the heart of fear and why sometimes, humans stop before they have even begun. This…
How to Learn to Love Ourselves
This month, while the world is talking about romantic love, we’re talking about the more important self-love. Yet how many of us would admit love for ourselves? Most of us, in fact, are more likely to do the opposite and admit only to our flaws. We spend more time pulling…
Imagination is a Powerful Force
The following is an excerpt of a chapter in Susan’s book of essays called “Life is Huge!” In this brand new year, it says a lot about envisioning the future we want and having the courage to commit to it. The best party I ever attended was in the year…
Trusting Your Impulses
Learning to trust yourself—your intuition and impulses—can be hard, but as Susan explains in this anecdote, it can be incredibly rewarding! I was surprised when I “trusted my gut” and found a new career. My intention after getting my doctorate in psychology was to ultimately set up a private practice.…
Trusting Your Intuition
In our November newsletter, we’ve been talking about taking the fear out of decision making. Sometimes when we face a big decision, or even a number of small ones, we freeze up, fearing that we will make the wrong decision. But as Susan wrote in Feel the Fear and Do…
The Psychological Predisposition to Bad News
Humans are predisposed to pay more attention to bad news, to things that can go or have gone wrong. The psychological term for it is Negativity Bias. We are all inclined towards life’s negativity. This is the idea that Susan spent her whole career battling against—just because we are predisposed…
Become the Observer of Your Thoughts
Following up on the previous blog, another “Love Lesson” that we can adapt to help us perfect Susan’s Mirror technique is the third one from Chapter 4 of The Feel the Fear Guide to Lasting Love—“Become the Observer of Your Thoughts.” Susan wrote: “With the help of your mirror you’ll…
Awareness Is the First Step
In this month’s newsletter, we talked about applying Susan’s Mirror technique to our day-to-day interactions with others. When we are critical and judgmental about other people, we are operating from our lower self. This is looking at people through a magnifying glass. When we look in the mirror and try…
So Many Options. Too Many Options?
As the traditional relationship roles shift and the strict boundaries and expectations become more flexible it can sometimes feel harder and harder to find a partner. It used to be that you met someone through friends or family or church, or maybe you met them through your place of employment.…